Aug. 13, 2025

Are You In A Revelationship?

What does it mean to have a "revelationship" with God? Cathy Garland guides us through this profound concept with Southern charm and biblical wisdom that will transform how you view your spiritual journey.

CATHY'S WEBSITE: https://www.revelationship.net/

WANT TO PURCHASE CATHY'S BOOK? CLICK HERE

WANT MORE EPISODES ABOUT BIBLE STUDY?

DO YOU WANT A SHOUT-OUT ON THE PODCAST? Use one or ALL of these links below

Leave a Message

Support the show

Leave a Voicemail

VISIT THE WEBSITE

JOIN THE COMMUNITY!

CHECK OUT THE HCC STORE

 

Get my FREE 7-day Devotional

5 Bible Verses to Memorize to Retrain Your Brain (PDF)

Leave a Review for the Podcast

Leave a Prayer Request

Be a Guest on Honest Christian Conversations?

 

ARE YOU A PODCASTER IN NEED OF A BETTER WAY TO PODCAST?

Check out RIVERSIDE and PODPAGE

00:00 - Introduction to Revelationship

05:42 - God at the Center vs. Top Priority

11:43 - Seeing Hypocrisy & Seeking Truth

16:42 - Finding God in Scripture

22:20 - Encountering God in Nature

26:00 - Learning to Suffer Well

32:07 - Changing Heart Posture

35:12 - Resources and Final Thoughts

WEBVTT

00:00:00.059 --> 00:00:02.990
Friends, welcome back to Honest Christian Conversations.

00:00:02.990 --> 00:00:04.546
I'm your host, anna Murby.

00:00:04.546 --> 00:00:09.833
My guest, kathy Clover Garland, is a very sweet Southern woman.

00:00:09.833 --> 00:00:21.233
That alone is one reason to love her, but another one is because of her deep love and connection with Christ and the Bible, and how simply she puts it so that we can understand as well.

00:00:21.233 --> 00:00:33.707
Because I don't know about you, but I want to have a deep relationship with God and I'm always looking for new ways to encounter God, ways to understand who he is and to feel His presence around me.

00:00:33.707 --> 00:00:42.152
I don't necessarily want to have that mountaintop experience all the time, or that one you get when you go to camp and that high that you have.

00:00:42.152 --> 00:00:51.212
You're not going to have that all the time, but you can have a deep connection with God and all you have to do is keep him in the center of your life.

00:00:51.212 --> 00:00:57.170
And the way she talks about this is contagious and makes you want to have it too.

00:00:57.170 --> 00:01:02.408
She reminds us of the simple ways that we can encounter God All together.

00:01:02.408 --> 00:01:05.826
This is a wonderful conversation that you are going to enjoy so much.

00:01:06.540 --> 00:01:13.504
Let's get into this awesome episode with Kathy Before the episode starts.

00:01:13.504 --> 00:01:17.453
Make sure you follow the show so you never miss another episode.

00:01:17.453 --> 00:01:20.545
Kathy, thank you so much for coming on the podcast.

00:01:20.545 --> 00:01:22.408
I'm very excited to have you on.

00:01:22.408 --> 00:01:24.673
I heard you a long time ago.

00:01:24.673 --> 00:01:36.688
You were on Johnny T's podcast, refuge Freedom Stories, and your story really resonated with me a lot and encouraged me, so I had to have you on the podcast.

00:01:36.688 --> 00:01:39.192
I'm sorry that it took so long to get you on.

00:01:39.192 --> 00:01:42.585
It was a while ago, but I had not forgotten you.

00:01:42.585 --> 00:01:49.945
And yeah, I just I want to pick your brain about your book, which unfortunately, I haven't had a chance to read.

00:01:50.027 --> 00:01:51.510
But I am looking forward to it.

00:01:51.510 --> 00:02:03.188
It's one of mine that I plan on reading, but I want to talk about your book and I want to know how you managed to have a revelationship, which is the name of your book.

00:02:03.188 --> 00:02:07.683
How did you come to have a solid, deep relationship with God?

00:02:07.683 --> 00:02:16.551
Because this is a thing that I know a lot of Christians want to have and it's not easy to attain, especially depending on what season of life you're in.

00:02:16.551 --> 00:02:19.807
You know, having little kids I've got all different seasons.

00:02:19.807 --> 00:02:23.503
I've got teenagers, adults, and I've got it all.

00:02:23.503 --> 00:02:24.407
I've got little kids.

00:02:24.407 --> 00:02:29.508
So it's hard for a mom to find time to make a deep relationship with God.

00:02:29.508 --> 00:02:34.141
So tell us how you realized that you needed a deeper relationship.

00:02:34.141 --> 00:02:37.429
I know you've been involved in church forever.

00:02:37.429 --> 00:02:46.752
Your father is a pastor, and how did being raised like that bring you into who you are today?

00:02:46.992 --> 00:02:49.788
Yes, you're right, being a mom makes it harder.

00:02:49.788 --> 00:02:53.039
You're certainly going to have devotions are going to look very different.

00:02:53.039 --> 00:03:01.830
They may be eating a granola bar, saying help me, jesus, as you run your bloody nose child to the ER because it's got the Lego up it.

00:03:01.830 --> 00:03:04.100
Oh no, I mean.

00:03:04.100 --> 00:03:07.449
You know, we have to be real about life.

00:03:07.449 --> 00:03:10.504
I mean, sometimes devotions is not morning devotions.

00:03:10.504 --> 00:03:17.447
It doesn't look like the leisurely, quiet time that I had before I had children and a husband, you know.

00:03:17.447 --> 00:03:19.793
So, yes, it changes different seasons.

00:03:19.793 --> 00:03:33.695
I think something one of the pastor's wives that is also an aunt of mine she told me a long time ago was that if you keep Christ at the center, so not to prioritize 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.

00:03:33.695 --> 00:03:39.611
Men can do that, but in a day for a woman those priorities are all jumbled and a mess.

00:03:39.611 --> 00:03:40.905
And are you kidding me?

00:03:40.905 --> 00:03:44.169
I'll be lucky if I check off two of those priorities, right.

00:03:44.941 --> 00:03:48.741
Yeah, I'm a to-do list person, so I get that yeah.

00:03:48.782 --> 00:03:56.431
I get that too, but I also don't want to lay in bed at night consumed with the fact that I didn't spend enough time with my child, right?

00:03:56.431 --> 00:03:58.287
So that happens to women too.

00:03:58.287 --> 00:04:00.187
So there's this thing that we have to do.

00:04:00.187 --> 00:04:03.887
So we have to be gracious with ourselves.

00:04:03.887 --> 00:04:07.360
And she told me put God as the center, not one, two, three.

00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:09.469
Not God is the top, god is the center.

00:04:09.469 --> 00:04:10.574
That's a very different thing.

00:04:10.574 --> 00:04:27.884
God at the center and then all the different roles are sort of the spokes of a wheel and as you're rolling along in different seasons, one or more of those spokes are going to be under pressure and that you have to roll with that, literally roll with that, and that's okay.

00:04:27.884 --> 00:04:29.149
We call that a season.

00:04:29.149 --> 00:04:43.994
But there's this thing in Christians, particularly, where we think we have to be all things to all people, using Paul's scripture, but using it wrong, and so we think that means that we've got to balance these plates, spinning plates and balance.

00:04:43.994 --> 00:04:49.625
Balance these plates, spinning plates and balance achieve some kind of Hindu utopian balance.

00:04:49.625 --> 00:04:59.052
It's not even in the Bible, it's an unbiblical concept, whereas seasons and knowing that you're in a different season, and being gracious and faithful to yourself which means for me eating right.

00:04:59.052 --> 00:05:03.329
When I'm chopping up strawberries for my kid, I got to eat them myself right.

00:05:03.329 --> 00:05:04.973
So those kinds of things.

00:05:04.973 --> 00:05:16.901
She kind of really helped me make sure that I wasn't just a priority person, because in corporate world you can be, but then all the rest of your life gets thrown into like one spot on your to-do list.

00:05:16.901 --> 00:05:17.982
That's not going to work.

00:05:18.343 --> 00:05:25.214
Growing up in the church, as you said, I always had a close relationship with Christ.

00:05:25.214 --> 00:05:29.992
I knew salvation and understood it in varying degrees as I grew up.

00:05:29.992 --> 00:05:39.029
When I was 13, I saw a lot of hypocrisy because the business world had moved into the church and things switched from the Jesus movement.

00:05:39.029 --> 00:05:43.732
We were from that sort of flow, the Jesus movement flow.

00:05:43.732 --> 00:05:51.432
We shared everything and we were living in each other's houses and eating together all the time and asking each other what is God doing in your life?

00:05:51.432 --> 00:06:09.473
It switched to a very business mentality and because of that I saw a lot of hypocrisy and I saw things that discouraged me and I told my parents you know I don't think this is for me, something's not right here and my dad, who is both a pastor and what we would call an ordained teacher, so we do believe in the Bible.

00:06:09.473 --> 00:06:12.850
And so, as a teacher, he said all right, here's what we're going to do.

00:06:12.850 --> 00:06:18.129
We're going to go to the library and check out books on all the religions and we'll study them.

00:06:18.129 --> 00:06:20.694
And I was homeschooled, so that was easy and we did.

00:06:20.694 --> 00:06:30.473
And by the end of my 13th year I was convinced that Christ was real, he was who he said he was and he wanted a relationship with me.

00:06:30.473 --> 00:06:32.220
So that was the basis for what came next.

00:06:32.779 --> 00:06:44.891
And then, over the years, I did feel like I had sort of stopped at a wall and that people were pretending that they were moving beyond this wall and I didn't understand what it was Like.

00:06:44.891 --> 00:06:53.247
We would go away to camp and we would experience the power of the Holy Spirit and we would repent and we would, you know, just have these kumbaya moments with God.

00:06:53.247 --> 00:06:55.052
And they were real, I'm not discounting them.

00:06:55.052 --> 00:06:59.336
But then we would come back and the world would just take it out of us.

00:06:59.336 --> 00:07:06.213
You know, it was just like a skiv, you know, and it just leaked out of you and I was like, how do you keep the power of God alive?

00:07:06.213 --> 00:07:09.709
And so that for me, was absolute surrender.

00:07:09.709 --> 00:07:18.100
It was like I was a lamp walking around with a plug trying to plug in, and the plug really was surrendering absolutely All that.

00:07:18.100 --> 00:07:19.084
I am, all that.

00:07:19.084 --> 00:07:22.252
I'm not good, bad, the ugly and everything I ever hoped to be.

00:07:22.252 --> 00:07:24.848
I surrender to the Lord absolutely.

00:07:24.848 --> 00:07:35.404
And that gave me the power to explore, sort of a framework to explore.

00:07:35.404 --> 00:07:35.966
What is it that he's saying?

00:07:35.987 --> 00:07:44.983
And then, as I told our friend Johnny T, one of the main things that happened for me to make the Bible come alive, because I've read it so many times, I mean I had certificates on my wall for reading the Bible.

00:07:44.983 --> 00:07:45.350
I think so many times like I had them.

00:07:45.350 --> 00:07:47.286
And many times I mean I had certificates on my wall for reading the Bible, I think so many times Like I had them.

00:07:47.286 --> 00:08:03.379
And it was the Old Testament which is dry and so much blood, and like how many cows have to die for these people, and so I'm really dreading reading this Old Testament yet again.

00:08:03.379 --> 00:08:07.524
And he said look for me, look for me revealing myself.

00:08:07.524 --> 00:08:20.185
And so I began to look for the God who, which is actually the title of my next book, and then how God says things like I am the God who sees you, I am the God who rescues you, I am the God who makes myself available to you.

00:08:20.185 --> 00:08:26.708
You know all these different things that he says and I started to find them, particularly in Genesis, and it just made it come alive.

00:08:27.129 --> 00:08:27.930
Your parents.

00:08:27.930 --> 00:08:39.994
Giving you the opportunity to search through different religions is definitely not something that every child has, especially Christian children, because their parents just kind of get on.

00:08:39.994 --> 00:08:42.081
I don't want them to learn about other religions.

00:08:42.081 --> 00:08:43.465
What if they choose that one?

00:08:43.465 --> 00:08:46.049
Well, that's a big what if?

00:08:46.049 --> 00:08:47.955
And that's their decision.

00:08:47.955 --> 00:08:58.267
But if you just keep them locked into one thing, what makes you think they aren't going to go searching for that later if they're having the same kind of feelings you were having?

00:08:58.267 --> 00:09:05.049
So I think that was a very wise decision that your parents were able to do that for you and go through it with you.

00:09:05.211 --> 00:09:06.341
I mean, I'm right now.

00:09:06.341 --> 00:09:08.287
I'm still learning about different languages.

00:09:08.287 --> 00:09:09.711
I didn't learn about all that stuff.

00:09:09.711 --> 00:09:19.951
I went to a Christian school but I don't remember them talking too much in depth about other religions to a point where I was thinking maybe I would rather do this one.

00:09:19.951 --> 00:09:29.033
Not that I ever went that way, because I was the good girl who did everything she was told to and live the way I was told to because I was told to.

00:09:29.033 --> 00:09:30.667
So there was that.

00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:48.504
But for you to have that hunger and that desire at such a young teenage year and realizing that I want to plug in and I want to stay plugged in in and I want to stay plugged in.

00:09:48.504 --> 00:09:49.727
I don't want it to just be a one and done.

00:09:49.727 --> 00:09:51.774
Or the camp thing is a very good example, because I used to go to youth camp too.

00:09:51.774 --> 00:09:57.229
You get the high, you're feeling it, you come home, maybe it sticks for a couple days and then life sets in.

00:09:57.229 --> 00:10:00.163
And it's the same with the newlywed phase.

00:10:00.163 --> 00:10:07.183
It's like you're there, you're in love and then all of a sudden you want to throw something at them and you're like, when did it end?

00:10:07.183 --> 00:10:09.128
And it's the same thing.

00:10:09.249 --> 00:10:12.501
So, yeah, that's awesome that you were able to do that.

00:10:12.501 --> 00:10:53.097
Definitely going to have to read your next book too, because that's a brilliant way to read the Old Testament Because, as you said, it's very dry, it's very difficult, no-transcript, but it is hard to read If you're not putting God first.

00:10:53.097 --> 00:11:03.191
And I like how you said you were reading to see who God was, what he does and focusing on him, because that's what the Bible is supposed to be about is God?

00:11:03.674 --> 00:11:04.840
Yeah, and my children.

00:11:04.840 --> 00:11:06.075
I'm doing the same thing Now.

00:11:06.075 --> 00:11:15.967
I have a son who is nine and a daughter who is seven, and so we're talking about things that I think adults struggle even now to talk about.

00:11:15.967 --> 00:11:20.527
Like you mentioned, I think, with your podcast with Johnny T about Sodom and Gomorrah.

00:11:20.527 --> 00:11:23.605
I've already had that conversation with them on several occasions.

00:11:24.195 --> 00:11:36.211
That, and you know, Nineveh and kind of the conversation that, whenever I come to a scripture verse or a story that reveals something about God, I do have a framework for that.

00:11:36.211 --> 00:11:39.065
It's not just like willy-nilly, I have a framework.

00:11:39.065 --> 00:11:44.200
The framework starts with God is holy, because that's what he says he is and God is good.

00:11:44.200 --> 00:11:50.144
So whatever happens in this story, I know it's going to reveal that God is both holy and good.

00:11:50.144 --> 00:12:05.284
So you know, when I read something like Sodom and Gomorrah and the negotiation between God and Abraham, or when somebody says, well, you know, God changes his mind because he changed his mind with Abraham, I'm like nope, nope, that's not how it worked.

00:12:05.284 --> 00:12:09.719
He didn't change his mind, he still destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.

00:12:09.778 --> 00:12:19.039
And, technically, if you're a full out theologian and you know that God is omnipresent and he exists in an eternal now, that he has no past and no future.

00:12:19.039 --> 00:12:20.442
He only has an eternal now.

00:12:20.442 --> 00:12:26.388
He actually already destroyed it when he was talking to Abraham, because he does everything in his eternal now.

00:12:26.388 --> 00:12:30.179
He is still present, laying the foundations of the earth.

00:12:30.179 --> 00:12:33.206
He's still present knitting you and I and our mother's wounds.

00:12:33.206 --> 00:12:42.778
He is still present in the future where he has full victory and technically we're with him, but we just haven't experienced it yet as far as he's concerned.

00:12:42.778 --> 00:12:43.841
There is only now.

00:12:43.841 --> 00:12:45.966
And so that whole negotiation.

00:12:45.966 --> 00:12:48.378
There was a reason he allowed Abraham to negotiate.

00:12:48.378 --> 00:12:48.918
What was it?

00:12:48.918 --> 00:12:55.402
He said I'm doing this so that Abraham's descendants can know what is holy and righteous and good.

00:12:55.402 --> 00:12:57.105
He said that's why he's doing it.

00:12:57.105 --> 00:13:06.905
And so you know, if you read the Bible with those foundational understandings God is holy, God is good then it's going to reveal an aspect of his character that is holy and good.

00:13:07.615 --> 00:13:09.562
Mind-blowing content.

00:13:09.642 --> 00:13:12.261
Ladies and gentlemen, mind-blowing content.

00:13:12.261 --> 00:13:17.120
I love it, mind-blowing content.

00:13:17.120 --> 00:13:34.970
I am soaking up so much new information about who God is and who I thought he was and what he actually is, and realizing some things from what I once believed, and even years ago, a couple years ago, things I believe that I no longer believe.

00:13:34.970 --> 00:13:41.961
God is always showing me new things, revelations, and I love it and I'm here for it.

00:13:41.961 --> 00:13:50.149
I wasn't always open to seeing new ideas and understanding and reading the Bible in a fresh, new way.

00:13:50.294 --> 00:13:52.400
I was very close-minded.

00:13:52.400 --> 00:13:54.447
Very well, this is how I was raised.

00:13:54.447 --> 00:13:55.600
This is what I was told.

00:13:55.600 --> 00:13:57.100
I'm not going to question it.

00:13:57.100 --> 00:13:58.640
You can't question God.

00:13:58.640 --> 00:13:59.759
You can't question that.

00:13:59.759 --> 00:14:00.960
My parents told me this.

00:14:00.960 --> 00:14:03.600
My church told me that I have to believe it.

00:14:03.600 --> 00:14:05.341
If I don't believe it, what's going to happen?

00:14:05.341 --> 00:14:07.844
That's just how I was very doom and gloom.

00:14:07.844 --> 00:14:12.322
If I don't believe this, if this isn't true the way I think it is, then what is true?

00:14:12.322 --> 00:14:12.722
What is?

00:14:12.722 --> 00:14:19.870
And then you start freaking out and you're like, oh no, maybe it's wrong, and then you don't know what to do with that.

00:14:19.870 --> 00:14:20.815
So that was me.

00:14:20.875 --> 00:14:29.442
Well, it's probably part of your God-given personality is probably stability and those kinds of things, and there's nothing wrong with that at all.

00:14:29.442 --> 00:14:30.986
I tend to be more of a maverick.

00:14:30.986 --> 00:14:35.681
I tend to be more of the one who throws the bomb in the conference meeting.

00:14:35.681 --> 00:14:38.403
So it comes out a little differently, Don't?

00:14:38.403 --> 00:14:49.366
I'm not afraid to confront different people, especially if I think it's true, or stop people in their tracks if they're saying something to me or over me, or over my children or something like that.

00:14:49.366 --> 00:14:51.863
So there's a boldness that can come from that.

00:14:51.863 --> 00:15:00.163
But I think what you're talking about and what I'm talking about is who we are in Christ, because we're talking about who God is revealing himself to be.

00:15:00.163 --> 00:15:04.320
But the key part of that is also what it says about me.

00:15:04.320 --> 00:15:07.886
So practicality, this is for your listeners.

00:15:07.886 --> 00:15:11.941
This is not more of the deep theology, which I love, but we could go there anytime.

00:15:12.020 --> 00:15:16.609
But he says I look up, I see what God is.

00:15:16.609 --> 00:15:20.966
Then I look down and I see who I am because of who he is.

00:15:20.966 --> 00:15:27.623
And then I look around and I see what I'm supposed to be doing in order to participate in who God is and what he's doing.

00:15:27.623 --> 00:15:30.945
What he's doing and who he is can never be separated.

00:15:30.945 --> 00:15:42.150
So if I look up and I see that God is the God who sees injustice, like Hagar and sees me, she said Elroy, you're the God who sees me Then I look down, I am seen.

00:15:42.150 --> 00:15:45.360
Even when injustice happens to me, I am seen by God.

00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:48.048
That makes me very valuable to him.

00:15:48.048 --> 00:15:49.150
I am seen.

00:15:49.150 --> 00:15:57.736
Being seen today is this big deal because most people are not seen and partly because of COVID and the isolation and all this sort of thing.

00:15:57.736 --> 00:16:00.505
But if I look up, god is the God who sees me.

00:16:00.505 --> 00:16:01.929
I am seen.

00:16:01.929 --> 00:16:07.287
Now I need to go around and I need to do the same thing to other people so I can participate.

00:16:07.708 --> 00:16:11.418
That's the practical outworking of why he reveals himself.

00:16:11.418 --> 00:16:13.023
One he wants relationship.

00:16:13.023 --> 00:16:15.168
Two he wants you to know who you are.

00:16:15.168 --> 00:16:16.361
Three he wants you to get involved.

00:16:16.361 --> 00:16:16.534
Does that make sense?

00:16:16.534 --> 00:16:16.754
Yeah, yeah, he wants relationship.

00:16:16.754 --> 00:16:16.746
Two he wants you to know who you are.

00:16:16.746 --> 00:16:17.268
Three he wants you to get involved.

00:16:17.268 --> 00:16:18.149
Does that make sense?

00:16:18.609 --> 00:16:19.830
Yeah, yeah, exactly.

00:16:19.830 --> 00:16:21.995
We're supposed to be the hands and feet of Jesus.

00:16:21.995 --> 00:16:31.383
We are supposed to see other people see the needs there and meet those according to to do.

00:16:31.383 --> 00:16:43.192
Hey friends, have you joined the Honest Christian Conversations online group yet?

00:16:43.192 --> 00:16:50.155
If you haven't, you're missing out on a perfect opportunity to grow your relationship with Jesus Christ.

00:16:50.155 --> 00:16:54.962
This is a community for those who want to go deeper in their relationship.

00:16:54.962 --> 00:17:06.846
You can do Bible studies together, ask the questions you have biblically and get the answers that you might need or maybe you're somebody who has answers to somebody else's questions.

00:17:06.846 --> 00:17:08.942
You can leave your prayer requests.

00:17:08.942 --> 00:17:10.902
You can leave your praise reports.

00:17:11.535 --> 00:17:13.522
This is a community.

00:17:13.522 --> 00:17:23.402
This is what church is supposed to be, and I am so glad that I finally took that step to make this group so that people's lives can flourish in Jesus name.

00:17:23.402 --> 00:17:30.307
Also, if you haven't signed up for the mailing list, you're missing out on an opportunity there as well.

00:17:30.307 --> 00:17:38.469
I send out a weekly email chocked full of so much awesome content that I don't have time right now to share it all with you.

00:17:38.469 --> 00:17:47.890
But when you do sign up for that mailing list, you get my seven-day free devotional that I created just for those who sign up for the mailing list.

00:17:47.890 --> 00:17:59.520
If you haven't joined either of these, you can go to my website, honestchristianconversationscom and sign up there, or you can use the links for it in the show notes.

00:17:59.520 --> 00:18:07.048
What drove you to write your book Revelationship which is a very clever title, by the way?

00:18:07.067 --> 00:18:07.348
Thank you.

00:18:07.348 --> 00:18:13.808
It's not as clever as you think, because Amazon changed it from Revelationship to Relationship.

00:18:13.808 --> 00:18:21.486
So if your listeners actually look for the book on Amazon, if you type in revelationship, it will change it to relationship, which is annoying.

00:18:21.787 --> 00:18:22.667
Yeah, it is.

00:18:23.355 --> 00:18:29.528
It is Revelationship Kathy Garland or Randy Culver you'll find it.

00:18:29.528 --> 00:18:31.457
So anyway, why did we write the book?

00:18:31.457 --> 00:18:34.201
Dad and I wrote the book because two reasons.

00:18:34.201 --> 00:18:39.828
One, I was writing the God who and it's taken me 10 years to get through Genesis.

00:18:39.828 --> 00:18:41.955
That's what's going to be in the book the God who.

00:18:41.955 --> 00:18:48.397
10 years of all the revelations of who God is in Genesis just Genesis, which is enormous amount.

00:18:48.397 --> 00:18:52.166
There's more revelations in Genesis than the rest of the Bible put together.

00:18:52.166 --> 00:18:55.420
It's probably because he was trying to introduce himself.

00:18:55.420 --> 00:18:59.267
He's like this is who I am, you know, just in case you didn't know Anyway.

00:18:59.346 --> 00:19:11.842
So I was writing that and I was sharing it with his interns and my dad was like this is good, but a lot of people do not have a framework for experiencing God's revelation.

00:19:11.842 --> 00:19:21.489
And it is true like maybe you learn to experience God through worship at your church if you're a sensate, or maybe reading the Bible.

00:19:21.489 --> 00:19:22.913
Those two are kind of the key.

00:19:22.913 --> 00:19:27.884
Maybe community, if that's sort of your love, language or acts of service.

00:19:27.884 --> 00:19:36.044
You know, experiencing God through those things are certainly sacred pathways, as we call them in the church history, but not really anything beyond that.

00:19:36.414 --> 00:19:49.137
So a lot of people are afraid to experience God in nature, which is outlandish but it's real, mostly, I think, because Wiccanism became very popular when I was younger, and, of course, paganism.

00:19:49.137 --> 00:19:55.441
And you know, if you go outside and you're experiencing God in nature, are you really experiencing God or maybe are you experiencing paganism?

00:19:55.441 --> 00:20:03.740
You know there's that sort of mission, but the Bible says that creation declares loudly who God is.

00:20:03.740 --> 00:20:17.805
And so getting out there in the silence and the quiet, putting your feet on the grass, listening to his birds, listening to just the stillness of things, a lot of people like city girls, like me I grew up in Atlanta, I'm a city girl.

00:20:17.805 --> 00:20:21.065
My nighttime crickets is airplanes going ahead Like people, my husband-.

00:20:21.394 --> 00:20:23.461
I was from Sacramento, California.

00:20:23.922 --> 00:20:24.785
Okay, so you understand.

00:20:24.785 --> 00:20:29.866
Yes, the sound of the air brakes of semi trucks puts me to sleep.

00:20:29.866 --> 00:20:31.923
My husband he's more of a country boy.

00:20:31.923 --> 00:20:36.517
He grew up in Tennessee and Augusta and so he likes the quieter.

00:20:36.537 --> 00:20:38.625
I have had to learn to appreciate quiet.

00:20:38.625 --> 00:20:43.166
It's a discipline that I did not have and I had to acquire it.

00:20:43.166 --> 00:20:58.459
In order to hear God's voice, I have to silence all the other voices that are coming 24-7, from the Internet, from TV, from the radio, from music, from my parents, my mom's voice in my head, my dad's voice in my head, even the church.

00:20:58.459 --> 00:21:07.619
I mean 24-7, we have voices going into our ears, and is it any wonder people can't discern the voice of God?

00:21:07.619 --> 00:21:10.645
They have a deluge of voices to listen to.

00:21:10.645 --> 00:21:12.717
You go outside, go quiet.

00:21:12.717 --> 00:21:19.962
I guarantee you God will speak to you, because that's where he first speaks to us in the Bible, when he creates creation, in the garden.

00:21:19.962 --> 00:21:22.544
So he's there, present in creation.

00:21:22.544 --> 00:21:35.839
So dad said you got to write a book to help people have a framework for experiencing God, and so that's why we wrote Revelationship God revealing himself as he pursues us for relationship Revelationship.

00:21:36.859 --> 00:21:38.060
Beautiful, awesome.

00:21:38.060 --> 00:21:46.487
I'm not always a nature person because mosquitoes enjoy me so much and I don't like the humidity.

00:21:46.487 --> 00:21:48.788
Here in Connecticut it's terrible.

00:21:48.788 --> 00:22:10.403
I feel like I can't breathe and I know everyone on the East Coast right now is booing me because they don't, because you have to shovel and I don't really have a problem with shoveling as long as it's soft snow.

00:22:10.403 --> 00:22:22.269
But my favorite time of year or to hear or to even feel God's presence is when it's nighttime, it's quiet and it's snowing.

00:22:22.269 --> 00:22:24.094
I love going outside.

00:22:24.094 --> 00:22:26.469
I will go and shovel by myself if I have to.

00:22:26.469 --> 00:22:30.943
My husband does most of the shoveling, but I will go out and do it by myself, no problem.

00:22:30.943 --> 00:22:56.972
Sometimes I'll take some music, but even if I do have music, just looking around, I feel God's presence and that just reminds me of how we've been washed white as snow and I look at the fresh snow that's on the grass that nobody's touched yet and it just it brings me back to that verse and it reminds me of that's what God sees when he sees me, because I am his child.

00:22:56.972 --> 00:22:59.607
And yeah, I completely agree with you.

00:22:59.900 --> 00:23:01.594
Nature is where it all started.

00:23:01.594 --> 00:23:08.251
Nature is where we need to go and I think that's one of Satan's tactics is to pervert it somehow.

00:23:08.251 --> 00:23:15.032
Like you said, are we going out for God or are we going out because it's new agey or it's hippie or whatever?

00:23:15.032 --> 00:23:19.070
And, yes, maybe some people that's why they go out.

00:23:19.070 --> 00:23:23.803
God knows your motives, he knows the heart posture of you going out.

00:23:23.803 --> 00:23:28.381
So if you're going out for new age purposes, then that's something you need to repent from.

00:23:28.381 --> 00:23:37.109
But you can't not go outside because of that, because you're afraid that, oh, the new age has made it that way, hijacked it.

00:23:37.109 --> 00:23:38.816
Yeah, yes, exactly.

00:23:38.816 --> 00:23:41.505
There's been a lot of hijacking lately of certain things, absolutely and exactly.

00:23:41.505 --> 00:23:41.957
There's been a lot of hijacking lately of certain things.

00:23:42.500 --> 00:23:43.241
Absolutely.

00:23:43.241 --> 00:24:00.853
And another way people have not been taught, unfortunately, how to experience God is through suffering, and this seems to be a theme I'm not the only one I noticed talking about this, but the church has failed to teach us how to suffer well and to glorify God through suffering.

00:24:00.853 --> 00:24:01.814
We're going to learn it.

00:24:01.814 --> 00:24:12.192
There will be a time and the time to come, when it's closer to the end and I don't know when that's going to be Don't ever ask me to predict it, because whatever day I choose, that is not the day.

00:24:12.192 --> 00:24:21.087
But he tells us you're going to suffer in my name, so suffer well, and this is something we have to learn.

00:24:21.087 --> 00:24:24.085
Suffer in my name, so suffer well, and this is something we have to learn.

00:24:24.105 --> 00:24:27.074
And I was just speaking to the middle school and upper school and my son's school.

00:24:27.074 --> 00:24:36.186
It's a Christian school, it's a classical Christian school, and I was in the chapel and I said that I wasn't naive enough to think that the kids in this room haven't suffered.

00:24:36.186 --> 00:24:48.306
There were kids, say, 17, 18 and younger, who were crying while I was talking, because they have suffered and we have to be able to talk about it, and talking about it is not including.

00:24:48.306 --> 00:24:50.708
Pick is a thing that happens to children and it's suffering.

00:24:50.708 --> 00:25:05.845
So I was talking to them about two things.

00:25:05.944 --> 00:25:18.051
I said there's a garden and you've got to plant seeds in your garden from reading the Bible, planting scripture, so that it's there, so that when you suffer in order to suffer, well, you have something.

00:25:18.051 --> 00:25:24.424
Like a man goes out to his garden and he looks for vegetables to eat and there's nothing there because he didn't plant them.

00:25:24.424 --> 00:25:25.248
Well, that's stupid.

00:25:25.248 --> 00:25:29.625
So plant it with the scripture and then reap them during suffering.

00:25:29.625 --> 00:25:39.883
There has to be something for you to know about God, like you have to have the scriptures that tell you what God is, who God is, what he does, what he does not do.

00:25:39.883 --> 00:25:42.029
You know, like I don't change, etc.

00:25:42.029 --> 00:25:45.859
And then you can go out to that garden and you can reap it when you suffer.

00:25:45.859 --> 00:25:56.248
So if he's close to the brokenhearted and you're brokenhearted and you know that scripture, you will experience God who is closer than a brother.

00:25:56.248 --> 00:25:57.390
Does that make sense?

00:25:57.891 --> 00:26:09.553
Yeah, yeah, I've had my share of suffering, so I definitely I resonate with that and I read a lot of Voice of the Martyrs.

00:26:09.553 --> 00:26:22.096
Yeah, I get theirs too, their magazines, and I'll read them to my kids and I'll remind them that there's children who don't get food, there's children who suffer, there's children who don't get food, there's children who suffer.

00:26:22.096 --> 00:26:27.592
I said there's probably children even close to you that you know at school who are not able to get food.

00:26:27.592 --> 00:26:34.126
So we need to learn how to be grateful for what we have, because at some point you never know if you will be in that position.

00:26:34.126 --> 00:26:36.146
I said everything we have is a gift.

00:26:36.146 --> 00:26:40.568
You're not entitled to it and at some point it can all be taken away.

00:26:40.980 --> 00:27:04.085
And I read the stories, not because I want them to hear all the terrible things that have happened to different Christians, but that I want them to think outside of themselves and realize that there's other areas around where there's kids and they suffer and they go through things with their families and they go through these things on behalf of Jesus too, so that they know that this is not going to be a cakewalk.

00:27:04.085 --> 00:27:11.968
This is going to be a struggle sometimes and you have to learn how to handle it, which is I didn't handle things well.

00:27:11.968 --> 00:27:19.127
I got really angry, I got addicted to things, I did not suffer well and I don't want that for my kids.

00:27:19.869 --> 00:27:33.650
I was in a Bible study recently and one of the oldest members of the Bible study she's like 80, she said we were reading Revelations and she said I'm reading this about those who overcome to the end, and she's like.

00:27:33.650 --> 00:27:38.683
That strikes fear in my heart because I can't even deal with a paper cut.

00:27:38.683 --> 00:27:41.268
How am I going to deal with martyrdom?

00:27:41.268 --> 00:27:41.647
Now?

00:27:41.647 --> 00:27:45.893
It's highly unlikely she's going to have to because she's the age that she is.

00:27:45.893 --> 00:27:47.394
But she has suffered.

00:27:47.394 --> 00:27:48.115
I know she has.

00:27:48.115 --> 00:27:53.324
She's a widow and she's lost children and she's lost all sorts of things.

00:27:53.344 --> 00:28:00.829
And so I told her, as I told the kids in the school part of learning to suffer well is learning the faithfulness of God, proving it to yourself.

00:28:00.829 --> 00:28:13.386
You suffer in a small way, small comparatively, and then you learn that God is there, he is faithful, he comes through for you or he's just there while you go through it.

00:28:13.386 --> 00:28:16.481
Like sometimes being there for you is the way he shows up.

00:28:16.481 --> 00:28:17.625
It's not rescue.

00:28:17.625 --> 00:28:19.391
Sometimes he rescues, sometimes he doesn't.

00:28:19.391 --> 00:28:23.565
And so you prove yourself in this way and then you prove yourself in this way and then you prove yourself in that way.

00:28:23.565 --> 00:28:28.084
You proved yourself over and over again God is good, he is faithful.

00:28:28.444 --> 00:28:31.009
And then, when you hit the big suffering.

00:28:31.009 --> 00:28:36.167
I presume you know persecution, like these voices of the martyr, I get the magazine too.

00:28:36.167 --> 00:28:36.509
I love it.

00:28:36.509 --> 00:28:49.561
When you hit those, you're like, okay, the same God who kept me like David said, the same God who kept me and gave me the power to kill the lion and the bear, he will help me destroy and vanquish this enemy.

00:28:49.561 --> 00:28:56.301
So the same God who keeps me in this life is the same God who will keep me as I face death.

00:28:56.382 --> 00:29:00.073
Whatever that is, yeah that's a very good reminder.

00:29:00.073 --> 00:29:10.750
And, yeah, I know there's times where I'm reading through the books and I'm like I don't think I could handle this if this was my child, if this was my husband.

00:29:10.750 --> 00:29:19.987
And I appreciate when they get vulnerable and they say it was not easy to forgive the person who killed their spouse or their child.

00:29:19.987 --> 00:29:28.881
Some of them maybe they have a quick turnaround, some of them not so much, but you learn through those things and you pick yourself up.

00:29:28.881 --> 00:29:32.930
You allow God to help you through, and that's what we need to do.

00:29:32.930 --> 00:29:39.369
No matter how small our suffering may be compared to someone else's or how big we think it is.

00:29:39.369 --> 00:29:42.425
We need to, like you said, we need to trust in God.

00:29:42.425 --> 00:29:44.243
We need to know that he is faithful.

00:29:44.243 --> 00:29:47.873
He will always be faithful and he will be where we need Him to be.

00:29:47.873 --> 00:29:52.050
He will be there with us through the whole thing, until the very end.

00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:59.383
Do you remember that story in the Voice of the Martyrs where they were in church and the terrorists came in?

00:29:59.383 --> 00:30:00.967
It was in Africa.

00:30:00.967 --> 00:30:03.071
I'm pretty sure I could be wrong.

00:30:03.071 --> 00:30:04.787
It might have been more of a Middle Eastern country.

00:30:04.787 --> 00:30:07.990
It seems like you could throw either one of those countries you know.

00:30:08.259 --> 00:30:28.931
Yeah, unfortunately, you know it's on the rise, but anyway, in the story the whole congregation was afraid because these terrorists came in with their guns and they started roughhousing some of the people and they put the women over here and some of the children, and then all of a sudden, you know, they were fearful, like what you're talking about.

00:30:28.931 --> 00:30:35.352
Then, all of a sudden, the pastor said I see heaven and Christ seated at the throne.

00:30:35.352 --> 00:30:42.506
He had a vision and in that instance everybody changed their perspective Instead of an earthly perspective.

00:30:42.506 --> 00:30:43.328
What's going to happen to me?

00:30:43.328 --> 00:30:45.848
I don't know being jostled about or whatever.

00:30:46.259 --> 00:30:55.632
And instantly people began to make sure that they were ready to go to heaven and they trusted that he had indeed seen, just like Stephen, you know.

00:30:55.632 --> 00:31:06.505
And so the terrorists didn't feed on fear anymore because there was no fear, and so they realized that they couldn't get these people panicked.

00:31:06.505 --> 00:31:08.650
So they stole a bunch of things and left.

00:31:08.650 --> 00:31:24.726
They didn't kill anybody, and I remember that story because I'm like okay, a revelation of God changed the entire atmosphere and it was a way that God rescued them, but everybody got their hearts in the right posture instead of in a fearful one.

00:31:24.726 --> 00:31:25.667
What's going to happen to me?

00:31:25.929 --> 00:31:29.684
Yeah, I think I remember that story and it's very powerful.

00:31:29.684 --> 00:31:32.049
You are absolutely right your heart.

00:31:32.049 --> 00:31:45.203
Once it is in the right posture, nothing's going to change you and how you act, and it can be a very powerful tool that God uses to change the hearts of those who are persecuting you as well.

00:31:45.203 --> 00:31:50.602
So, yeah, it's very, very important that we have the right heart posture, for sure.

00:31:50.602 --> 00:31:53.429
Well, I have enjoyed this time with you so much.

00:31:53.429 --> 00:31:56.846
I know there's so much more we could be talking about because you have so much wisdom.

00:31:56.846 --> 00:31:58.048
I can tell so I'm definitely going to be reading your books.

00:31:58.048 --> 00:31:59.232
Where can they get your books and what are they called?

00:31:59.232 --> 00:32:01.599
Well, I can tell so I'm definitely going to be reading your books.

00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:05.229
Where can they get your books and what are they called?

00:32:05.229 --> 00:32:06.311
Well, I know your other one.

00:32:06.311 --> 00:32:12.173
I don't think it's out yet, but where can they find you if they're waiting for that book?

00:32:12.339 --> 00:32:15.730
The best place to find things would be revelationshipnet.

00:32:15.730 --> 00:32:18.788
That's where they can connect with me.

00:32:18.788 --> 00:32:25.724
I'm on threads and Instagram and Facebook and also people email me with questions, as I've done some of these podcasts.

00:32:25.724 --> 00:32:30.103
People will send me some of the harder questions, like Sodom and Gomorrah why did it happen?

00:32:30.103 --> 00:32:39.952
Or something like that, and I've kind of wrestled a lot of those things down to the ground and so I'm happy to take any tough, legitimate, authentic conversation.

00:32:39.952 --> 00:32:44.307
I mean, there's always trolls, but I'm not talking about those, yeah yeah, you gotta love the trolls.

00:32:45.281 --> 00:32:46.968
Well, that's the pain of my existence.

00:32:46.968 --> 00:32:51.266
I'm always wanting to prove that the Bible is errant and I'm just like don't talk to me.

00:32:51.266 --> 00:32:54.945
The Bible's not, it's not errant, there's no error in scripture.

00:32:54.945 --> 00:33:00.888
So, anyway, but if they can talk to me, they can connect with me by email, connect with me on Instagram.

00:33:00.888 --> 00:33:08.842
They can get the book Revelationship on Amazon or off the website, whichever one, and I also have a devotional as well.

00:33:08.862 --> 00:33:20.031
It contains the book, as well as journaling prompts and mindfulness exercises, qr codes that they can scan to listen to worship music while they're learning something.

00:33:20.031 --> 00:33:23.148
I mean, it's just about 250 pages.

00:33:23.148 --> 00:33:25.304
I think it's massive.

00:33:25.304 --> 00:33:27.650
And then so they can get that there.

00:33:27.650 --> 00:33:46.868
And then also, my dad has a lot of other books that we have listed there that he's written over the years as a pastor, things about reconciliation, because I grew up in Atlanta in a half black, half white church and racial reconciliation was a massive subject at all times.

00:33:46.868 --> 00:33:53.490
So they can get all those kinds of things at the website, and I actually have a Lenten study that's out.

00:33:53.490 --> 00:33:55.301
I did not grow up observing Lent.

00:33:55.301 --> 00:33:57.406
I had no idea what Lent really was.

00:33:57.406 --> 00:33:59.942
I thought it was a Catholic sort of penance thing.

00:33:59.981 --> 00:34:01.721
Yeah, that's what I thought it was.

00:34:02.423 --> 00:34:07.323
Yes, and I kind of viewed it with some suspicion, like maybe they're trying to earn grace or something like that.

00:34:07.323 --> 00:34:08.286
But it's not.

00:34:08.286 --> 00:34:19.824
It's really about giving up something in order to make space to connect with God, and if there's one message that the church needs right now is we need to make some space.

00:34:19.824 --> 00:34:27.032
We have way too overcrowded lives, and so it's got a Lenten study that people can download for free if they want.

00:34:27.280 --> 00:34:29.469
Okay, that's cool, very interesting.

00:34:29.469 --> 00:34:33.831
Well, thank you, kathy, so much for coming on and talking with me today.

00:34:33.831 --> 00:34:55.916
It's been very exciting, very interesting, and I'm hoping that people will have a new heart posture, wanting to desire a deeper relationship with God and focusing on Him rather than ourselves, and definitely making time for God and making room for Him instead of trying to fit Him into our lives.

00:34:55.916 --> 00:34:58.126
Like you said, putting Him in the center.

00:34:58.126 --> 00:35:04.126
Everything else will radiate out of putting him in the center, so thank you for that reminder.

00:35:04.306 --> 00:35:05.168
Thank you for having me.

00:35:05.168 --> 00:35:08.226
Thanks for listening, if you enjoyed the episode.

00:35:08.648 --> 00:35:13.268
leave a review for the podcast wherever you are listening, or click the link in the show notes.

00:35:13.268 --> 00:35:19.572
If you have feedback for me, use the leave a message or voicemail links also in the show notes.

00:35:19.572 --> 00:35:26.869
You can check out my website honestchristianconversationscom to leave a review or feedback as well.

00:35:26.869 --> 00:35:30.389
Join the community and become part of something bigger than yourself.

00:35:30.389 --> 00:35:36.112
Lastly, sign up for the mailing list and get the free seven-day devotional as a thank you gift.

00:35:36.112 --> 00:35:38.307
Once again, thanks for listening.

00:35:38.307 --> 00:35:40.688
I look forward to our next conversation.

Cathy Garland Profile Photo

Cathy Garland

Author of Revelationship | Prayer warrior, theology-lover, suffering coach, deliverance advocate, speaker, writer, marketing CXO

Cathy Colver Garland co-authored Revelationship: Transformative Intimacy With Christ with her father, Dr. Randy Colver. She writes Gracefull Musings, a blog providing women a moment of rest and challenge before those little fingers appear under the bathroom door. A former Vice-President of a software company, she currently consults with institutions and companies on growth strategies. She also mentors women in professional, spiritual, and personal
development. Saved and living an “absolutely surrendered” life, her passion is to teach people to hear God's voice, surrender their lives, and walk in freedom. She is married to
Mickey and has two children in elementary school.