Why do I keep repeating the behaviors I hate?

Why do I promise myself: “This is the last time”…only to find myself right back in the same cycle days later?

I know that cycle well, and I hate it too.

When I wrestle with these questions, Romans 7:15-20 often comes to mind. Maybe you are familiar with it.

You may have read that verse and felt a little like you were reading a Dr. Seuss book. I get it, it seems repetitive and maybe a little long-winded, but the message seems clear to me.

Did you catch it?

Don’t let this discourage you, though.

Today, I hope to start you on a journey toward freedom from the burden of guilt and shame that comes from patterns of repeated sin.

I’m Ana Murby, and this is Honest Christian Conversations, minisode edition. I’m all too familiar with unhealthy behavior patterns, being a former porn addict for 17 years. During my sobriety journey, I learned a lot about myself and what makes me tick, and I hope today I can help you uncover some things about yourself that will change the trajectory of your life, as mine did.

Let’s get to it.

Here is an example of the vicious cycle of addiction:

Does this cycle seem to be relevant to your struggle?

I resonate with it, not just with my former porn addiction, but all other addictive behaviors I have or once had.

Take a moment and list out three behaviors you repeat and how they make you feel.

Do you find yourself in the cycle above?

If so, stay here and let’s walk through together how to overcome the flesh.

Overcoming triggers:

The 17 years I was stuck in porn addiction were the darkest and most miserable years of my life. I was constantly full of guilt, shame, hypocrisy, and self-loathing.

I have been blessed to share my story on many podcasts, and one question they usually ask me is, “What were your triggers?”

This is a fun, humbling, and eye-opening question that any addict, or former addict, should answer honestly.

These were mine:

• Negative emotions (mostly anger)

• Insecurity

• A temporary emotional escape from negative emotions or a lack of intimacy with my spouse

• Curiosity

List out some of your own triggers.

Do you see a pattern emerging between both our lists?

They are, on the surface, self-centered drives.

Now, if you are like me, you just heard me say, “You are selfish.”

That is not at all what I am saying, so please don’t hear that lie.

What I am saying is that our desires may stem from trauma, unmet needs, or life experiences that train us to look inward for relief.

It takes time, energy, and daily surrender to stop the cravings.

It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it when you can finally overcome your urges, rather than them overcoming you.

Stay with me as I walk you through how to spot addictive behaviors and what to do about them.

Overcoming Behaviors:

The triggers I mentioned earlier always brought me to pornography for “relief” from my life.

What do your triggers always draw you back to, whether you like it or not?

Behavior patterns are a funny thing.

What do kids do once they find a movie, song, or book they love?

They replay it over and over until you’re ready to scream. Or is that just my children?

The truth is that it’s not just kids who get this way. Adults aren’t that different, are we?

Think of a song you love and try to count how many times you’ve listened to it.

Tell me what your favorite movie is and how many times you’ve seen it.

Pride and Prejudice (the Keira Knightley version) is mine.

I lost track of how many times I have seen it.

If you hate small talk, you will love the awkwardness of this clip from my favorite scene.

The patterns we repeat may seem harmless, but what we repeatedly consume shapes our worldview, habits, and desires over time.

Not all bad behaviors look nefarious, either.

On its surface, working out and eating healthy aren’t bad, until it becomes your all-consuming goal in life.

Even doing Christian things could become a sinful habit.

Don’t believe me?

Why are you serving at church? For Validation? To occupy your time? Church obligation?

Why do you do every bible study you can? To seem overly spiritual? To catch a feeling? Because you think it will get you to heaven?

Your motives matter: if they stop being about God and become about self, even these wholesome endeavors can become driven by sinful motives.

Check your motives every day to see whether they are positive or negative.

Overcoming Guilt and Shame:

This one is hard.

I won’t lie.

Guilt and shame are Satan’s greatest tools to keep you in bondage to your repeated sin.

This is where you need to know who you are in Christ.

If you call yourself a Christian, then you are a child of God.

That should be a big boost in your ability to overcome guilt and shame for repeatedly sinning because you know that your Heavenly Father, even if he has to discipline you, still loves you unconditionally.

If you aren’t a believer or you have fallen away from the faith, this step won’t be as easy to achieve, because lasting transformation is found only in Christ.

Surrendering to Him will be a big step in walking a path of true overcoming.

I encourage you to take a look at all the passages in the bible where God talks about how he loves you.

Find the verses that talk about being a child of God and what power comes with that.

Here is a truth that I hope will set you free from your prison of guilt and shame for repeated sins:

You don’t need to clean up your act to come to Christ; you need to believe and then allow the Holy Spirit to change you through time.

It could be a short time or a longer one, but you will see a change.

The temptation to sin will always be there, as Paul wrote in our opening verse; it’s our sinful nature warring inside us. But in Christ, you have the power to overcome.

Overcoming the Repeat:

Now that you understand your triggers, what behaviors they draw you to, and how to combat guilt and shame, let’s learn how to stop the repeat cycle of these bad behaviors.

Too bad there isn’t a button to click to turn off the repeat, like there is on your favorite music app, am I right?

This step will take intentionality and determination.

Overcoming patterns and habits you’ve lived in for years won’t be a walk in the park. Well, maybe a walk through Jurassic Park. Yes, I know that was cheesy.

It will be tough and irritating, and it might even make you cry.

That’s okay, let it out to God, share your frustrations with him.

He loves you, and he wants to help you become free more than anyone else.

Take it a day and behavior at a time.

It’s a slow process, not a sprint.

Before I end this, if you need more help on this journey to making healthier habits, I created the Retrain Your Brain series.

It was birthed out of my desire to see people stuck in addictive patterns set free from them, using God’s word as our ultimate source of overcoming.

I encourage you to walk through the 12-week Retrain Your Brain series at your own pace.

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Have you ever found yourself staring at the magazine rack while waiting in a checkout line?

You scan through the black-and-white magazine with Batboy on the cover and find yourself staring intently at the woman on the cover of a popular women’s magazine. As you gaze at the figure up and down, you notice something important.

Her hair is flawless, her skin is radiant, she has no wrinkles or frown lines, and her teeth are whiter than snow.

You scan down further and see her slender and perfect figure in that red dress, and a twinge comes over you as you look at the article title: “How does Jennifer Aniston still look so young after all these years?”

You frown, turn away from the magazine, and watch as the cashier starts bagging your groceries.

Your brain starts to wander back to that perfect lady in the magazine as you push your cart to the parking lot.

How DOES she still look like a bombshell?

She must work out and never eat sweets or fast food.

Yeah, maybe you’re right, OR a better explanation (and probably more likely) is that she had work done on her photo to make her look that good.

You may not have said it, but I’m sure you’ve thought it at some point; they are clearly altered images.

This mentality doesn’t just stay in the realm of magazine models; it extends to other areas of life, too.

The perfect Instagram selfie or family photo, a clean house just minutes before a friend or family member shows up, how you present yourself at church, or the worst offender of all, your idea of who Jesus really is.

The way we see our savior is shaped by our experiences, influences, and ideas.

That is why this form of airbrushing and tweaking is the most dangerous.

Sure, it’s harmful to women’s psyches to see a “flawless” woman in a magazine; it makes them feel less than, like something is wrong with them if they don’t look that way, too.

Never mind how men looking at those “perfect” women affects their ability to relate to real women.

All of that pales in comparison to how detrimental it is to believe in a savior who is airbrushed and altered from the real thing.

Let me show you why this form of alteration matters most.

Now, do you see why it is the worst form of airbrushing?

Have you ever been to Sioux Falls, SD?

Yeah, me neither, but back in 2025, I had a great discussion with Pastor Phill Tague of Ransom Church in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, about this very topic.

We explored how our ideas about Jesus can harm the real relationship He wants with us.

It was a convicting conversation that left me realizing I needed to repent and change some of my ideas about who Jesus really was.

The top four ways you are harming your relationship with Jesus.

1. You Can “Do Christianity” and Still Not Know Jesus

I am a recovering people pleaser and legalistic Christian.

Having grown up in the church all my life, I knew bible stories like the back of my hand. I could recite Bible verses and sound “Holy” in the right crowd. I was always considered the “Good girl” in my family, the child every parent wished they had. So obedient, soft-spoken, and kind…I was the best legalistic Christian I could be.

Then, in my early twenties, I went through a painful divorce from an abusive “Christian” man, and I quit living for God, as if it was HIS fault.

For the next eight months, I did whatever I wanted to and didn’t care about God’s opinion.

Okay, well, I cared a smidgen, and that’s why I still went to church now and then, prayed at least once every day, and sometimes read my Bible or listened to Christian music.

These were ways I “played Christian” while living for myself and trying to feel better about what I was doing.

Eventually, I knew I was a hypocrite, felt conviction about it, but chose to go all in for my debauchery, instead of turning back to Christ.

Through God’s grace and pursuing, He allowed me back into his presence, skinned knees, bruised ego, and hypocritical heart aside.

When I returned to Christ at thirty years old, I finally realized that I did nothing to earn the love of Jesus.

I was a fool, a porn addict (at the time), someone who cussed a lot and listened to vulgar music, plus other things I won’t mention.

I didn’t earn His forgiveness, His kindness, or the restoration of my heart and mind.

He gave me everything because he loved me so much and didn’t want me to stay in that terrible position.

He did the same for you!

Legalism is a dangerous trap that leads you to believe that you contribute something to your salvation.

You DON’T.

You CAN’T.

You aren’t perfect like Jesus is. Let that realization sink in and free you.

It’s possible you are living a religious life, like I did most of mine: following rules, saying the right things, looking the part.

If this feels like you right now, then you are sadly missing a real relationship with Christ.

It leaves you trying to earn something that was never meant to be earned, creating a lack of intimacy with Jesus.

👉 Stop trying to do enough to earn God’s love and realize you already have it through the finished work Jesus did on the cross.

2. The Real Issue Isn’t Behavior—It’s Surrender

Have you ever tried to have a healthier lifestyle?

You were diligent, going to the gym for a long time, you ate better, and then a family member had a birthday party.

Uh-oh!

The cake looks delicious, and you try only one small piece, a reward for all your hard, disciplined work.

Fast forward a month, and you stopped going to the gym and are back to eating sweets; guilt and shame creep in, and you decide to try your health journey again, but it wavers.

This becomes a vicious cycle that goes on for several years before you finally give up trying to be healthy altogether.

I have been there and done that so much that I should have a T-shirt.

Living a healthy lifestyle is hard work, especially when it takes so much time and intention and costs a lot of money.

The problem, though, isn’t necessarily the behavior as much as it is the WHY behind why you can’t keep up with your goals.

Look at someone you admire for achieving their goals. What do they have in common?

• Determination

• Passion

• Discipline

• Sacrifice

Without these things, it will be hard for you to do the right thing, but more than that, in your spiritual walk, you need to be careful about your motives for what you do.

Surrender is the essence of the gospel. (Romans 5:8)

Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross gave you a chance at new life and to surrender your own life back to him.

Trying to fix outward behavior without addressing lordship leads to a cycle of frustration and double living.

If you feel like a hypocrite right now, do an internal check of your heart’s desire and see if it is Jesus or something else. If your answer is anything other than God, it means you are out of alignment, and you won’t be able to have a healthy relationship with your Savior.

👉 Transformation begins when Jesus isn’t just believed in but truly followed as Lord.

3. The “Jesus We Want” vs. the Jesus Who Is

I have an issue with The Chosen.

Now, before you stop reading, let me explain.

I did a fantastic deep dive into the many reasons why I have spiritual issues with the show on my podcast, Honest Christian Conversations. If you haven’t heard any of the buzz around The Chosen, you’ve got to listen to this.

Here is one of the hang-ups I have with it.

Jesus is NOT a hottie!

I found myself drooling over Peter, and some other disciples, but worse than that, whenever I read the Bible, I saw Jesus…no, not THE JESUS…The Chosen Jesus. The handsome, hard to look at without turning into a giggling schoolgirl version of Jesus.

This was a problem!

There’s nothing wrong with “drop-dead gorgeous,” but no one knows what Jesus looks like, and the Bible gives us a glimpse into something different:

He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground.
He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. (Isaiah 53:2)

Making Jesus into who you want Him to be is a concern that many of us share, not just with The Chosen but with many other versions of Jesus out there in book, video, preaching, and podcast forms.

Do you share the same concerns?

Many people, unknowingly or knowingly, create an “airbrushed” version of Jesus—one that fits their comfort, avoids conviction, and aligns with their expectations; but when that version of Jesus doesn’t satisfy as you expected, you want to leave Him altogether.

Not knowing who Jesus really is can be very detrimental to your relationship with God because you place expectations on Jesus and believe promises he never made to you.

Discernment is important, especially in the spiritual world. Knowing what the bible actually says about Jesus is important to having a healthy relationship with God.

👉 When you redefine Jesus, you end up trusting a version of Him that doesn’t actually exist.

4. God’s Goal Is Not Your Comfort—It’s Your Transformation

Many Word of Faith preachers out there tout that God always wants us “healthy and wealthy”.

I don’t know where they got that information from, but it’s a bald-faced lie!

If you can name me chapter and verse where it says that, I will repent for what I just said.

Go on, I’ll wait…

Spoiler alert: There is no verse.

You may want to mention Jeremiah 29:11 to me right now, but I have news for you.

That was not a promise made to everyone, only God’s people, Israel, at the time. Read the whole chapter in context, and you will see.

That being said, it doesn’t mean that God doesn’t want you to have a fulfilled life; it just means this specific promise wasn’t for you, so don’t hold on to it.

Context matters; this is how you make mistakes with who Jesus really is.

You think you know what His word is saying, or you listen to someone who says they know and blindly believe it because, well, they are a pastor, or Christian influencer/musician.

DANGEROUS!

God never said he wants us to be comfortable in our walk with him; in fact, he says the opposite.

“In this life you will have troubles, but take heart, for I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

That is just one of the verses in which Jesus warns you about the sacrifice it takes to follow him. Take some time today to look at all the other places in the Bible that say following Him won’t be a cakewalk.

As humans, we naturally want to be happy, at ease, and in control, but God is after something deeper:

Obedience often leads you into uncomfortable places, but those are the places where real growth happens.

👉 True joy isn’t found in getting what you want. It’s found in becoming the person God is shaping you to be.

Are you following Jesus as He is or a version of Him you’ve created?

Depending on your answer, how will you respond to what God is showing you?

If you are curious to know more about how to mend your important relationship with your Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, I encourage you to listen to Airbrushed Jesus vs. the Real Jesus: A Conversation About True Faith

God Bless

-Ana

If you can’t think of a time, let’s jog your memory by using some examples from my own life.

In high school, I had some close friends, and we did almost everything together…almost. Several times, they had gone to movies with other friends without inviting me. I found this out because the next day we hung out, they would be talking about the movie and who was there, in front of me.

Another example is whenever my children don’t want to read the bible, don’t eat what I cook, say something awful to a sibling, or throw a tantrum, I take it personally. I would think: “This is all my fault. I am a bad mom.” “Maybe they don’t love me, and that’s why they disrespect me.”

Are you starting to think of your own life examples now? I have plenty more examples, but here is one more.

My husband isn’t a big talker. Most days it’s fine with me. My love language is quality time, so if he just sits with me, I am good 90% of the time. The other 10% of the time, I think, “What did I do wrong now?” “Maybe he is angry with me for something.” Worse yet, “Why doesn’t he want to make time for me? Maybe he doesn’t love me anymore.”

What do you think? Any of these examples hit home for you?

I am a recovering people pleaser and codependent. To this day, in my forties, I am still trying to figure out who I am apart from the noise of everyone in my life.

Can you relate?

Have you heard the saying: You are the sum of the five people you hang out with?

Why do you think that is?

I think it’s because we unintentionally believe their opinions matter more than what God says about us.

If you are feeling convicted right now, you aren’t alone. Remember, I said I was a recovering codependent. We come by this thought pattern honestly. The world tells you various conflicting ideas:

• You can’t trust people, so depend on yourself.

• Women are told not to depend on a man for anything, but also to find their soul mate.

• Men and women are both sold this lie: that a woman’s value is found in her looks.

As a Christian, you need to be fully dependent on Christ.

It can all be overwhelming, right?

How should you handle all this tension?

Glad you asked.

I had a heart-to-heart conversation with a man whose family was turned upside down when he discovered his wife’s empty bag of pharmaceutical drug bottles behind the couch.

After trying to confront her about it and getting nowhere, his codependency started to kick in, and he tried to become her savior, which only fueled the fire of her addiction.

Steve Rotermund is a former pastor and the founder of Walk Right Ministries, which he started after his own journey through codependency.

Steve was very vulnerable with me about how his wife’s addiction affected him and his family.

He also shared valuable information for learning the signs of an unhealthy versus a healthy relationship.

If you have ever felt an intense desire to make everyone like you, felt a sense of inadequacy fluctuating according to a spouse’s mood, tried to be your addicted loved one’s savior, or let your children’s choices determine your parenting success, this episode is for you!

After you listen, please share your thoughts with me.

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In this episode, I open up about my own struggle with control, how hidden patterns can form without us realizing it, and why addiction is often more subtle than we think.

You’ll also hear practical self-reflection questions to help you uncover what may be driving your habits, along with encouragement for how to begin walking in freedom without shame.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in people-pleasing, emotional dependence, perfectionism, or hidden habits you can’t quite explain, this episode is for you.

In this episode:
• Hidden addiction signs most people miss
• The connection between control, validation, and emotional dependency
• Why people-pleasing can become addictive
• Practical questions to help you identify unhealthy patterns
• How to begin breaking free through honesty, repentance, and truth

Want to go deeper?
Check out my conversation with Steve Ward of STEPS Ministries, where we unpack subtle addictions and why uncovering your “why” matters.

👉 If you’re walking through struggles with habits, addiction, or spiritual strongholds, I also host a private podcast focused on recovery, healing, and freedom in Christ.

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Yeah, me neither.

Waiting is hard and rarely enjoyable, but when it comes to living for Christ, it’s often part of that walk.

My family has had plumbing problems with our house for many years now. We’ve done everything we could to get it fixed, but it still hasn’t been resolved because we only recently discovered the main issue.

Our pipes are disintegrating.

Yeah, you read that right.

They’re made of something called Orangeburg, which is apparently just a step above papier-mâché.

Great… now what?

Well, to fix the problem, we need to tear up our house’s foundation and replace the entire plumbing.

Not only will this cost more than we can afford, but it also means my family of six will have to stay somewhere else while it’s being fixed.

At first, my husband and I were both stressed. The price tag alone was overwhelming. But then he said something simple:

“It will be okay. God’s got this.”

That moment shifted something for me. It reminded me what faith looks like in real life.

And now… we wait.

Our insurance won’t cover the project. (Which honestly makes you wonder what homeowners’ insurance is even for.)

So my husband applied for a state grant to help cover the cost. We were told that because our house is older, we might qualify for additional repairs too, which would be an incredible blessing, since there are other things we haven’t been able to fix.

They also said we have a good chance of getting approved. They just needed paperwork.

So we submitted everything… and entered another waiting season.

Then Tuesday came.

First, our insurance agent called and said they’re looking into why the previous company never fixed this issue, even though they knew about it.

That felt like a small step forward.

A few hours later, the woman from the state agency called. She had a few follow-up questions and then said she would submit everything and be in touch once a decision is made.

She also seemed confident we would receive the grant.

Ugh… more waiting. But hopeful waiting.

I want to encourage you with this:

Just because you are in a waiting season doesn’t mean God isn’t paying attention.

The day before those calls—on Monday—I had a real, honest moment with God. I told Him how I was feeling, praised Him for who He is, worshiped, and said something simple:

“I just want to move from this waiting room to the next one.”

And here we are.

Nothing is fixed yet.

We’re still waiting.

But we’re not in the same place we were before.

I thank you, God, for listening, even when I’m just venting. Thank you for meeting me here. I’ll keep trusting You through this next phase of waiting.

If you’re in a waiting season right now, take a moment and look at how far God has already brought you.

Thank Him for that.

And trust Him with what’s still ahead.

God isn’t silent. His lack of visible movement doesn’t mean He doesn’t care.

It means He’s working.

It means He’s growing you.

So let Him.

And if you can… try to find a way to enjoy the process, even when it feels really hard.

In this episode of Honest Christian Conversations, I talk with Steve Ward, founder of Steps Ministries, about high-functioning addiction, compulsive habits, and the hidden “chains” that can quietly shape our lives.

From alcohol and porn addiction to everyday coping patterns, we explore how addiction forms in both the brain and the heart, how to recognize the true cost of unhealthy habits, and how to begin the journey of addiction recovery without shame.

You’ll walk away with practical insight, encouragement, and clear next steps toward healing, community, and freedom in Christ.

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It’s true.

But lately, I’ve realized there is another layer to that statement:

Marriage will also show you how selfish you really are.

That’s a harsh reality. But anyone who has been married longer than the obligatory newlywed phase knows it.

You don’t even have to wait for kids to find out how selfish you are—just try to agree on what to eat, watch, or listen to. That should do it.

Okay… you might be feeling a little deflated right now (thanks, Ana). But hold on—this is not where I’m leaving you.

Here’s the harsh but loving truth:

We are all selfish. Not just you.

Does that make you feel a little better?

Okay… how about this:

You don’t have to stay that way.

Back in December of 2024, my life as I knew it took a dark and upsetting turn.

I won’t go into details out of respect for everyone involved. But I will say this: the situation broke me to the point where I realized just how deep my selfishness ran.

What should have been a joyful time of year—Christmas—became heavy for my family. And a big part of that was how I handled being hurt by someone I cared about deeply.

Poorly. I handled it poorly.

I felt wronged, and I wanted that person to feel it—to understand how terrible what they did was.

And because of that, I made decisions I didn’t even want to make—decisions that were, honestly, worse than what had been done to me.

But when we’re being selfish… do we really count the cost?

I know I didn’t.

I realize I’m being vague, and it’s probably frustrating. I’m sorry for that. But this situation is deeply personal, and still a fresh wound for my family. I’m not quite ready to share more, especially since others involved aren’t ready for that either.

Here’s the takeaway from that painful realization:

Selfishness kills relationships.

Because it only cares about itself—not about the other person or their side of the story.

Another hard truth… but it’s real.

After everything came to light—things I wish hadn’t—I had to face my part in it.

I had to repent.

Not just for what I did, but for what was underneath it.

I had to admit something I didn’t want to admit:

I am a selfish person.

And I needed to figure out how deep that root went, and it went deep into childhood.

But I’m not here to blame anyone (sorry, counselors). This is mine to own.

After that, I started making changes, and they were hard.

I realized I needed to be more present—to set aside my own wants in the moment when I hear:

“Play with me, Mommy.”
“Babe, can you help me?”

Even in the small, everyday things—like laundry and dishes—I needed to show up differently.

There were times I avoided those things because no one noticed… and I resented my family for it.

That’s hard to admit. But it’s true.

I was looking for recognition here on earth… instead of remembering where it actually matters.

So what did I do about it?

The same thing you can do if you’re feeling convicted right now:

Please your audience of One.

That’s it.

Live to please God, because when you do that, you naturally begin to serve others, and God gets the glory.

Treat your family, your friends, your coworkers—everyone—as if their lives matter.

Because they do.

Get out of your own bubble.

Remember who you are:
A wife. A mother. A husband. A father. A grandparent.

We all have needs. And especially in marriage, how we treat our spouse reflects Christ and the Church.

He wasn’t selfish.

He gave His life.

Do we have that same heart toward our spouse? Our children?

If I’m honest… I don’t know.

But I want to.

Selfishness is something we’re born into.

But learning to die to self?

That takes a lifetime. And that’s okay.

Give yourself grace.

Repent when needed.

And take the next right step.

Ask God to help you when pride, resentment, or selfishness rise up.

Ask Him to remind you of His faithfulness… and His sacrifice.

Because when you truly see what He did for you, something shifts.

You begin to want to live differently—especially toward the people closest to you.

This morning, my 9-year-old woke up before my 6:20 alarm and started asking deep questions while I was trying to read my Bible.

My 6-year-old didn’t want to put on jeans because “they feel cold.”

I helped my teen get up—even though they have two alarms.

I played cars with my 3-year-old. We counted them. Did a little math.

And only after all that did I finally sit down to do what I wanted—work on my podcast and write this post.

It was only 9:40 AM.

And I realized something:

When I put God and others first…I still end up having time for what I wanted. And even when I don’t—I don’t feel the same frustration.

There’s something powerful about putting others before yourself.

It changes your perspective.

It brings a kind of joy you can’t manufacture.

Almost like…God designed it that way.

Do you see your selfish tendencies?

What’s one small step you can take today to move away from that?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

I’m right there with you—learning this one step at a time.

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Season 6 stretched me in ways I didn’t expect. Stepping outside my comfort zone, hosting conversations with people who think differently, and navigating uncomfortable topics didn’t just challenge listeners; it changed me.

What began as an experiment in dialogue became a deeper lesson in humility, critical thinking, and trusting God with the outcome.

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Many Christians want to share the gospel but feel unsure where to start. In this minisode of Honest Christian Conversations, we talk about what it looks like to live out our faith in everyday life—through simple acts of love, courage, and obedience to Christ.

Sharing the good news isn’t always about having the perfect words or a dramatic moment. Often, it begins with being willing to show compassion, speak truth with gentleness, and allow God to use ordinary moments to point people toward Jesus.

In this short reflection, we explore how believers can step forward in faith and represent Christ in their daily interactions with others.

If you’ve ever wondered how to share your faith in a natural and authentic way, this conversation is for you.

Listen to How To Share the Gospel Without Fear: Practical Tips for Christians

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In this episode of Honest Christian Conversations, I’m joined by James Moffitt, who became a Christian at seventeen and spent over ten years doing street witnessing. Through real-life conversations, mistakes, and growth, James learned what actually helps Christians share the gospel in a way that’s loving, natural, and grounded in trust—not pressure or performance.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever thought:
“I don’t know enough.”
“I’m too shy.”
“What if they reject me?”

Together, we explore how to move past fear and step into faith with humility and confidence.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• How to share the gospel without fear

• Why feeling unprepared doesn’t disqualify you from sharing your faith

• What street evangelism taught James about real human connection

• Practical tips for Christians who want to talk about Jesus naturally

• How to handle rejection with grace

• Why obedience doesn’t mean perfection

If you’ve ever wanted to talk about your faith but felt intimidated, unsure what to say, or afraid of how people might respond, this episode will encourage you and give you practical next steps to begin sharing the gospel with confidence and compassion.

Visit James' YouTube Channel: @jamesmoffitt

Listen to his podcast: https://www.parentingadultchildren.org

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In this episode of Honest Christian Conversations, I step outside my comfort zone and sit down for a thoughtful, honest conversation with a writer whose beliefs and background differ from my own.

What begins as a discussion about storytelling, imagination, and post-apocalyptic fiction slowly opens into deeper territory—faith journeys, doubt, theology, and what it really looks like to listen to someone you don’t fully agree with. We talk about how easy it is to label people, how assumptions can block connection, and why meaningful conversations require humility, curiosity, and a willingness to be uncomfortable.

This episode isn’t about winning an argument or changing someone’s mind. It’s about learning how to engage with people as people—without compromising your convictions, but also without shutting down dialogue. We explore what it means to wrestle with faith questions, how personal experiences shape belief, and why honest conversations can lead to greater understanding, even when agreement isn’t the outcome.

If you’ve ever struggled with judgment, felt uneasy talking with people who see faith differently, or wondered how to have respectful conversations across differences, this episode is for you. My hope is that this conversation encourages you to listen more deeply, ask better questions, and step outside your comfort zone with grace and courage.

Check out Anne's literary works: https://www.amgeever.com

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In this minisode of Honest Christian Conversations, I reflect on how stepping into uncomfortable conversations can grow your confidence, deepen your faith, and stretch you spiritually. After a powerful and unexpected conversation with former CNN journalist John DeDakis, I share how God used discomfort to challenge my biases, expand my perspective, and remind me that we don’t have to “win” every conversation to walk in truth.

This episode is an encouragement for Christians who feel nervous about engaging with people who hold different views but sense God nudging them to step out of their comfort zone with grace and courage.

👉 Want to go deeper?
Listen to the full conversation that inspired this minisode:
Faith, Politics, and Truth: A Conversation with a Former CNN Journalist

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The noise of social media is becoming too much for me. Can you relate?

I created this space to slow down.

Not to announce things.
Not to push content.
Not to keep up with the noise.

I wanted a quiet place to reflect honestly on faith and what it means to follow Christ when life feels complicated.

If you’ve found your way here, you’re probably someone who values thoughtful conversation over quick takes. You might be carrying questions, tension, or even fatigue around faith. You might be trying to follow Jesus sincerely while sorting through a lot of noise and strong opinions. I’m in that space too, and I’m grateful we can carry some of that weight together here.

From time to time, I’ll share reflections from my own walk with God—things I’m learning, wrestling with, or being corrected in. Some of these thoughts connect to conversations I’ve had on my podcast, Honest Christian Conversations. Some won’t. This isn’t meant to be a feed of promotions. It’s meant to be a place for clarity, prayerful reflection, and honest processing.

There’s no posting schedule here. I’ll write when I have something meaningful to say. You’re welcome to read quietly, reflect, or join the conversation in the comments when it feels helpful.

Thanks for being here. I’m glad you found this little corner.

God bless,
Ana

This conversation goes beyond political talking points and into something deeper: truth, discernment, and Christian responsibility in an increasingly polarized culture. We discuss the difference between journalism that informs versus media that persuades, the dangers of placing political loyalty above faith, and how Christians can seek facts without sacrificing biblical values.

John shares insights from his years in journalism, explaining how media bias develops, why trusted news sources matter, and how fear and power can distort both politics and faith. We also wrestle honestly with uncomfortable questions many believers face today:

• Can Christians disagree politically and still honor Christ?

• What happens when political leaders are treated like saviors?

• How do we stay grounded in Scripture while navigating modern media?

This episode is not about telling you how to vote — it’s about encouraging you to think critically, seek truth faithfully, and place your hope in Christ above all else.

Take a look at John's novels: https://johndedakis.com/

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This short episode explores why spiritual growth often comes through frustration, how to process anger toward God in a healthy way, and why honest faith means bringing your real emotions to Him—even when you’re irritated, tired, or overwhelmed. You’ll hear encouragement to release your anger without letting bitterness take root and a reminder that God can handle your honesty.

I also reflect on my powerful conversation with Weston Brandon, who walked through deep grief after losing his wife and wrestled with God through his pain. His story is a reminder that even in heartbreak and unanswered questions, growth is possible—and faith can survive seasons of anger.

If you’ve ever prayed for change and then felt overwhelmed by the process, this minisode will encourage you to see frustration as part of growth—not proof that God has abandoned you.

🎧 Want to go deeper?
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Together, we explore what honest prayer looks like in seasons of pain, whether faith can survive deep anger toward God, and how healing can begin even when answers never come. This conversation also touches on widower grief, finding love again without guilt, navigating faith differences, and trusting God through life-altering tragedy.

If you’ve ever felt angry with God, struggled with grief after loss, or wondered if faith can coexist with heartbreak, this episode offers hope, honesty, and encouragement.

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If you’ve ever hesitated when God nudged you to love someone others avoid, this minisode is for you.

👉 This minisode only scratches the surface. My full conversation with Scott Mocha was deeply encouraging and challenged how I think about loving people. Listen to that episode here

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Scott shares his remarkable journey—from addiction to experiencing radical transformation through unconditional love. Together, Scott and I unpack what it really looks like to respond when God calls you in the moment—without fear, judgment, or pressure to “get it right.”

This conversation challenges believers to move past comfort, religious performance, and excuses, and instead reflect the heart of Christ through genuine connection, compassion, and obedience.

If you’ve ever wondered how to share your faith naturally, love people who don’t believe like you, or respond when God places someone on your heart, this episode will encourage and equip you.

Listen to Scott's Memoir

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Throughout January, I’m sharing short clips from past episodes of Honest Christian Conversations—moments that deeply impacted me and continue to resonate.

Today’s minisode features a 3-minute clip from Part Two of a two-part conversation centered on repentance, healing, and spiritual freedom. In this episode, I speak with Beatty Carmichael as we explore the power of strategic repentance and how confronting past sin can lead to profound healing and newfound peace, inspired by Proverbs 28:13.

Because this conversation unfolds over two episodes, I strongly encourage you to listen to Part One first, followed by the full episode of Part Two, to fully grasp the depth and heart of this message.

Whether this is your first time hearing this discussion or a reminder of a truth you’ve encountered before, I invite you to revisit both episodes prayerfully.

Sometimes God uses a familiar call to repentance to bring lasting healing and freedom.

🎧 Original Episodes:
• Can Repentance Bring Healing? — Part One
• Can Repentance Bring Healing? — Part Two

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