Do We Have the Wrong Idea About Silence With God? (MINISODE)

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Hello,

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everyone.

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Thank you so much for tuning in to today's mini-sode.

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What did you think of my episode I did with Dr.

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Ioana Popa?

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I realized that as much as her techniques are aimed towards those who are serving in the church or serving in some sort of ministry,

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I do believe that we can all benefit from the tips that she gave us,

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from learning how to renew our brains and...

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be able to figure out the steps that are needed to make sure that we can compartmentalize.

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The difference between empathy and compassion,

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what she explained in the episode was very interesting and very helpful,

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I think,

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for all of us.

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If you haven't listened,

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I do encourage you to go back and listen.

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There's so much in there.

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So

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I want to talk about something that I did mention in the episode,

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which was...

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my mom style and the things that I struggle with.

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We talked about how it was difficult to find silence.

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And she asked me,

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why was it difficult for me to find silence?

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And I explained to her how I have trouble slowing my brain down,

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especially at night.

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And I know all you ladies are raising your hand saying,

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yeah,

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that's me too.

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As a mom,

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that's just how I am.

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That's how we roll,

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we are constantly,

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our brains are on the move.

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And I don't think.

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they ever really do shut down.

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Not like men.

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You can ask them,

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what are you thinking about?

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They will say nothing.

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And they're actually thinking about nothing.

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Some days

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I wish I was so lucky.

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But there are times,

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like I mentioned in the episode,

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that I think and overthink and focus too much on the wrong things that really don't need to be focused on that time of night.

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And sometimes they don't leave until I make myself a note or I actually go.

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take care of whatever the problem is.

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I don't really know how to explain why I feel compelled and I can't relax until

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I do that.

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If you happen to know the diagnosis for that on how to,

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why that is,

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please do comment and let me know.

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I would like to stop being this way because it's not always great.

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Let's be honest,

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ladies and men,

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because I know there's some men out there that are like this.

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If you get fixated on something and you absolutely can't get it out of your brain until you take care of it,

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how irritating is that,

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especially when you're trying to sleep?

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So being silent before God is absolutely necessary to our sanity,

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to our health mentally and spiritually.

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And this is something that I am trying to work on,

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and it is not easy.

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I know I have said this before because I know I've talked about this subject before,

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but it is something that needs to be talked about.

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often.

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We have a weird idea of what silence is.

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We think if we just don't talk for a certain amount of time that we're being silent.

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But anyone who has laid in bed at night and not actually said a word but can hear their brain talking to them knows that that's not exactly what silence is.

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And silence is not always golden.

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Let's think about when our kids are silent.

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Usually it's not a good thing.

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we need to retrain our minds to think about what exactly is silence and how should we go about it health-wise.

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And honestly,

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I don't have the answers to that.

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I wish I did,

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otherwise I wouldn't have this problem.

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All I know is that God is in control.

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And when I am laying there at night and I am frustrated because I can't get something out of my head,

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I will pray and I will say,

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Lord,

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if this is something that you need me to remember,

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if this is absolutely important,

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please help me to remember it in the morning.

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And if it's not,

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just let it go.

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And sometimes that works,

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like maybe 80%

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of the time it'll work.

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The rest of it,

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I'm like,

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okay,

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fine.

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I will leave myself a note to do this,

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that,

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or whatever.

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Sometimes I will have to take care of it immediately.

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And usually...

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The only time I take care of something immediately,

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which requires me having to either get out of bed or reach over and grab my phone for reasons other than just to leave a note on it,

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the only things that that usually happens for is if I feel really strongly that I am supposed to contact somebody.

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I always pray for them as well.

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But there are times where God is speaking to us through our quote-unquote silent times,

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and sometimes that's through our brain processes.

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I mean,

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if he really wanted us to be silent at night,

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I feel like our brains would shut down,

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would completely shut down so that we could do that.

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So our brains not shutting down may not always be a problem.

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I think the way we handle it is what the real problem is.

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Because when it's quiet in the dead of night,

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we're sitting there,

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we're mulling over things that happened that day.

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We're mulling over what we might get to do tomorrow.

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Should we be allowed to have that time?

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There's just so many things that we're thinking about.

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And God is so good that he allows us to do this.

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And he is there with us.

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So maybe he is working through that,

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quote unquote,

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silence to.

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Better us for when we wake up in the morning or maybe something is immediate and you do need to talk to that person right then and there.

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And that's why you just jolted out of bed immediately and you have no clue why you woke up other than thinking about this person.

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So we just need to have our heads on in a healthy way and just evaluate why we can't let go of certain things,

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why some things are easier to compartmentalize.

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mentalized and why other things are not.

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And we should not worry about anything past that day.

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That's what the Bible says.

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Don't worry about anything for tomorrow because tomorrow has its own problems.

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Today's are enough for today.

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So I'm saying all this and it probably sounds like a jumbled mess,

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but honestly,

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silence might look different for each of us and for women especially.

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We shouldn't get so hard on ourselves if we are spending that nighttime processing what happened during that day.

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Maybe that is God refreshing us,

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healing us,

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and giving us new perspective to wake up with tomorrow.

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So when you look at the things that you're thinking about at night,

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try to put it in biblical perspective.

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And if you absolutely can't sleep because you are stressed out about these things,

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go to God.

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He is already there.

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He has already met you in those anxieties you are having.

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And for men,

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if you are one of those guys who can compartmentalize things and shut things down,

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don't always be quick to do that because maybe God is wanting you to process something.

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And if you just quickly shut it down,

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that might be blocking you from getting something he's trying to tell you or teach you.

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So be careful with that.

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And men.

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If you resonated with something that I said about the women and vice versa,

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women with the men and the compartmentalizing,

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we are not all built exactly the same.

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So I understand that things are going to be different and that is absolutely okay.

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Just look at the way that you do things and make sure you are putting God's center with all of that,

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with all the stresses and anxieties.

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All right.

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I hope that I have helped you.

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I have encouraged you.

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if I did.

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Please comment and let me know how you're doing and if you need any prayer about the subject that we talked about today.

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Talk to you later.

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Bye.